When it comes to validation, every site is a dating site for women.Girls posting their pictures on Facebook, Instagram, and Tumblr get as much, if not more validation than they would from men on online dating sites.
This dynamic hurts men by numbing their social skills.
Men who would normally have to learn real world social cues, overcome social challenges, and interact with women face to face, are able to sit at home, blast twenty messages a day, and avoid self-improvement. Women who would normally receive zero male attention are able to get hundreds of offers for sex and validation from desperate men.
By using deceptive camera angles and words like “curvy” rather than fat, secret internet fatties are able to experience male attention as if they were actually attractive.
No wonder I wasn’t getting replies – I couldn’t even read all the messages my fake account was getting.
When I actually did look at the messages, they were terrible.
The profile only gets a couple messages a week now, but they’re still awful.Here are a few recent ones: Hiiii I’m Johnny 😉 […] you have a rare beauty […] Hey my name is rob. If you think a normal girl would respond to any of these openers, please seek therapy from a qualified professional. Online dating allows men to do hundreds of low-risk approaches in minutes each day of girls they might not otherwise meet.When I first got on OKCupid, I sent out a few messages and got no replies.Since I was curious why, I decided to make a fake account as a woman.I used some photos of a moderately cute female model.I wrote the profile by cutting and pasting text from a girl on the opposite coast. Within days, my fake account had close to a hundred messages.