On the otherhand, as far as gaming goes, the right amount of quiet does wonders, the wrong amount of quiet cost you pussy.
You sound way to introspective to be in a fraternity.
If you're quiet, why do you want to be around a bunch of rowdy fratboys?
Honestly, I've always been a quiet reserved person in real life.
For a long time as a kid, I was actually afraid to talk because I was worried about saying something stupid.
So for those of you guys out there who have been quiet at some point in your life/are quiet, did/do you find being quiet to be something that worked against you?
"It is better to remain quiet and be thought stupid, than to speak up and remove all doubt" All in all being quiet at the right time has saved my butt numerous times.
If that your temperament doesn't mesh with a frat, why join it? I'm generally a quiet and reserved person around others, love solitude, and reflect often. Plus it's just so damn relaxing not having to spend energy on talking bullshit.
What does a frat do for you that you can't do for yourself anyway? So, if being quiet is going to help you get what you want, then be quiet. I've found that if I do a shot of 27 chin-ups, it makes my voice lower.. As you can see, with reflection you have identified potential problems if you're too quiet.
If being loud means getting what you want, you have to be loud. But when I go to a club, I have to remind myself to speak louder, and lower- from my diaphragm. For example, especially with respect to gaming women, you might come across as boring or too "cerebral" (which scares some women) if your verbal skills lack the ability to ask interesting questions, tell stories/jokes, or give provocative opinions.
Today, I finally got a bid from a fraternity I wanted to join after rushing 3 times.
I was texting my buddy who was in the fraternity and he brought up the fact that I was "quiet" was the only negative thing they said about me.
Now, in my moment of reflectiveness/insecurity, I gotta ask, is being quiet something that can truly work against someone?
Does lacking something to say every moment really work against you?